WOW! I head the greatest experience hosting a group of women for my Women and Wisdom group last night! The topic was "taking care of ourselves.....and why do we suck at it". These women had some spectacular ideas and insights! So much discussion about our world, the damage of "shoulds" , the importance of believing in ourselves and the self challenge of returning to a place of "un-fucked-upedness" (a group created word). I'm inspired and fired up !!
It was so amazing to have April McClung, financial advisor, co-host the most recent Women and Wisdom night! We had a great group of women with married friends, single friends, mom's of wee ones and mom's of grown ones and others of varied backgrounds and life stories. There were lots of great questions and sharing of tips. Here's an overview of some of the "nuggets" that we talked about:
At what age should I start teaching my children about money / allowance?
What is critical illness insurance and why is it important?
Should I pay down debt before I start saving?
What are some tips for managing my home finances so that I can make sure that everything is covered?
What about RRSP's?
What are some tricks for paying down debt?
It was clear that everyone at the table had questions, and everyone at the table had different ways of managing life. It always amazes me to see the energy and wisdom in the room when a group of women get together to share!
Our next Women and Wisdom night will be in April. We'll be talking about "taking care of me" and the ways that we let things get in the way of our success. I'm so looking forward to seeing everyone again!
We had another great day of sharing ideas, thoughts and wisdom at the Not my Circus, Not my Monkey's workshop. An interesting theme that emerged at this meeting was Forgiveness. How do you forgive the past with someone so that you can move forward to a clearer and more peaceful future?
Here are the top 3 pieces of wisdom that were shared:
1. Be your own Best Friend first.
When people are whole within themselves, they look to others to complement their lives rather than fill a void. Forgiveness, then, becomes something that enriches a life rather than something that is necessary to make a life feel whole or fulfilled. Often, we tell ourselves that we are looking to give forgiveness when , in reality we're hoping to reconnect with the person that we've lost.
2. Check you motives:
It's important to ask yourself the questions. "Why is this important to me?" . "What am I looking for?"
"Why am I wanting to do this now". " What is my reason for doing this?" It's so important to take time and look at what your truly seeking from giving forgiveness. Often it's about hope. We hope that the other person will embrace you with open arms. We hope that past issues can be resolved. We hope that there can be some new, wonderful relationship that can unfold. All of this hope may mean that your journey of forgiveness isn't truly about self freedom. You're actually diving right back into the circus and hoping to exert some control over the monkeys in there.
3. You can only control your own inner Monkeys:
The giving of forgiveness needs to be about filling a desire in you. You can't control how others may react. They may not be interested in accepting your forgiveness. They may not be interested in even acknowledging you. It's important to remember that you can't control the other end of the situation. Your effort at forgiveness needs to be the important part for you
There is so much to think and talk about on this topic. It's often at the root of the toxic dance we do with people in our lives. As we seek closure, we may convince ourselves that our willingness to forgive will make things better. But, if we aren't clear on who we are, and what our hopes are as we go down that road, we're going to get pulled right back into the circus!
Women and Wisdom is back for another exciting year of conversation and learning. Workshops start Tuesday, Oct 25 2016 and will generally continue on the 4th Tuesday of each month.
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Final Women and Wisdom night this season!
Tuesday May 31, 2016. 7-9 pm. at Soul Sistas
Register Here: http://www.muskokafamilyworks.com/wheres-the-manual-series
Can't make it out? There will be more exciting workshops coming this fall!
I had an amazing opportunity to join Katrina Scarlett, Wedding Coach, as a guest on her series about wedding planning.
The show will air on Tuesday April 12, 2016 at 11 am. Follow this link to hear it live! http://188.8.131.52/test.html
We had great night full of ideas and stories! Lots of amazing tips about taming those monkeys!
February 23, 2016 will be a fun night. Come out and meet other women; share your stories and trade tips and tools! 7-9 pm at Soul Sistas in Huntsville. Register at http://www.muskokafamilyworks.com/wheres-the-manual-series. Seats are filling up!
It was a creative and inspired night. Lots of laughter, insights and nuggets of shared wisdom! I'm looking forward to session 2: "Keeping your Sanity when life gets insane!" (February 23)